August 26th, 2020

To my Grandchildren.

I am finally writing my July Newsletter for August because of the busy and hectic summer. In July, we celebrated two wonderful weddings with two wonderful couples, Jacob and Jada along with Robert and Sarah.

Now they are ready to live out their married dreams. So, I’ve decided to share my Farmer D’s tips on having a successful married life. Here goes:

• Live for God. Allow him to be the center of your life especially in making decisions together. Couples say they believe in God, but are they really living for him?
• Your relationship needs to be your number one priority to protect. Don’t let anyone or anything compromise your relationship. Your relationship is as important as blood is to your body. 
• Forgiveness should always be in your heart. You can’t afford to allow unforgiveness to be in your relationship. Be willing to say, “I’m sorry.” Be the first one to clear the air. 
• Your greatest power is your power to choose! So, choose to be a blessing every day especially to your spouse. Use your power to strengthen your relationship. 

• Always, always be faithful to one another. Nothing is better than complete trust in one another. Always believe the best in one another. Be an encouragement to one another.

• Always look at life with a positive attitude. Be a good finder. Try not to dwell on the dirt or the negative, but take responsibility for your own attitude. Believe the best!

• Take Action: Action is always necessary when sharing dreams, ideas, thoughts, goals, and plans. Get ‘er done by taking action. 

• Truth in love: always be 100% truthful with one another but always share your truth with love and tenderness. Don’t ever keep secrets from one another. Learn to always share your heart with one another without pointing a finger. 

• Always honor and respect one another in every situation by giving each other grace. 

• Don’t be afraid to humble yourself by asking others for advice or help. We all need help from others from time to time.  

• Successful marriages are motivated marriages, so stay motivated with positive thoughts and ideas.

• Communication is talking and listening. Remember, we communication by words accounts for only 7%, body language by 38%, and tone by 55%! So watch your tone! Always try to be tender with one another.

• Conflict is always going to be a part of life. Learn to respond to conflict and not react to it. Learn to deal with conflict by working together as a team to come up with the best solution. 

• Every once in a while, ask these questions with one another: “What can I do more of, less of, or instead of, as your spouse? I want to serve you in any way possible.”

Our congratulations to Jacob and Jada and Robert and Sarah.

 
Love,
Grandpa.